SO CLOSE TO WALKING!
|Jaxson at a BBQ|
|Jaxson at a BBQ|
Jaxson must be hitting a growth spurt or maybe it’s because he’s been around his older cousins while on vacation. He has been watching them and chasing after every single one of them at our BBQ.
He’s literally doing so much and developing such an awesome personality.
Recently I wrote about Jaxson drinking out of a straw and how he’s taking a couple steps before going face first into the ground. Last night he amazed us at 12:30 AM–yes, you read correctly AM. Jaxson is a party animal at night.
He started to push up on his feet and STAND for maybe a couple seconds. He did this so many times last night and would laugh, smile, and flail his arms back and forth with excitement. It was such the cutest thing. He was SO pleased with himself.
We also celebrated Airway Disorder Day 2018 yesterday–Did anyone else join us? I painted my nails light blue for my little warrior and he was rocking his Lu the Lamb onesie from Coping with LM.
He has a one track mind and is very determined but it’ll definitely benefit him in the future. He’s one tough cookie that’s for sure!
In honor of Flashback Friday AND Airway Disorder Awareness Day (July 10th).
Jaxson at one month old (left) having trouble breathing, eating, and gaining.
Jaxson at sixteen months old (right) eating anything and everything. Can drink 5 to 8 oz of milk in less than five minutes.. AND BREATHING EASY.
Please support Jaxson and his fellow Laryngomalacia Warriors with painting your nails light blue for Airway Disorder Awareness day on July 10th, 2018.
Thank you from Jaxson’s Mom Jennie
Things NOT to Say to a Special Needs Parent….
DISCLAIMER: I am NOT writing this to offend anyone. I AM writing this to show awareness and to be mindful of what we say to Special Needs parents. I asked around a Facebook page today and asked what phrases or words people (friends, family, and strangers) have said that upset them…
When we were at the Naval Hospital in the very beginning, Jaxson was about three months old and this older lady strikes up a conversation with me. I know she meant well but when she asked how old he was and I replied with: “Three months old,” she gave me this look. She thought he was ONE month old, not THREE months old. I know she didn’t KNOW that our baby wasn’t thriving but it made me feel upset nonetheless. At three months old he was barely a little over his birth weight of 6 lbs 10 oz.
When I tell new people about Jaxson’s Rare Chromosome disorder I get a lot of crickets or blank stares. It’s not intentional, I know that, it’s hard to comprehend–I’m even having a hard time learning about it myself. JUST SO MUCH INFORMATION! I love that I have been able to find a special tribe that understands this journey of ours along with the outpouring of love and support from our friends and families.
“He’ll get better or he will outgrow it..”
Unfortunately with certain Rare Genetic disorders is that they aren’t going to get better like someone would from an illness or outgrow it like a child outgrows training wheels. Our warriors just learn to LIVE and ADAPT to their disabilities. Jaxson surprises us every single day with his accomplishments!
“Your child doesn’t look sick or he doesn’t look autistic..”
I know it’s meant to be nice but in all honesty, it really isn’t. When someone tells you about their child and about their Special Needs or Rare Genetic Disorder, please don’t tell them they do not look sick, they look normal, or happy. A Special Needs child and a child with a Rare Genetic disorder do not fit a specific “mold” or “one size fits all” so to speak. Two children can have the same genetic disorder but exhibit different symptoms and features.
“How old is he? …Really he is?”
Like most of the children with Special Needs or Rare Genetic disorder, Jaxson is developmentally delayed and speech delayed. His physical therapist stated that he is at about 8/9 months delayed so that would put him at about a 8/9 month old child level based on that diagnosis. So yes, he acts and appears to be younger then he is but he is 16 months old. I know this is unintentional like the Naval Hospital incident but it still makes me and others upset when are children are compared to others their age.
“Have you tried changing their diet..?”
Yes. Yes we have. Jaxson has mild dysphagia which makes it difficult to swallow, he has come a long way with Feeding Therapy but it still lingers. Because of his Rare Genetic disorder, we aren’t sure if it’s going to be a temporary thing or if it’s going to be long-term. Children with G tubes, NG tubes, etc. They’re on there for many different reasons, and asking them if changing their diet or have you tried changing your child’s diet isn’t something they want to hear. Like most, they’ve exhausted every possible avenue prior to having their children undergo life saving surgery for a feeding tube.
“He/She doesn’t act like so and so’s child..”
I haven’t dealt with this personally but a couple of moms on the Facebook page have and nothing is more disheartening or upsetting to hear that your child is anything but “normal.” Please don’t compare Special Needs children to other children.
I know I am super POST HAPPY the last couple days. I just really enjoy writing for this blog.. it feels very therapeutic.. like I’m finally lifting all this stress off of my shoulders. I hope I will be able to help someone else who is struggling for answers.
Want to share your experiences with me? Please leave a comment or message me, I would love to hear from you.